Teen Tuesday post is about Being a Good Friend. The conversations were
interesting, again! This week's lesson is a freebie and has a scripture poster
that can be used with or without the lesson. These posts are written by my
One major change I noticed from my teen years to adult years
was the ease of friendships. I am sure there are many reasons why friendships
became easier the older I got, but I like to think that part of it is because I
learned how to be a better friend to people. I remember as a teen the constant
cat fights I was in and the selfishness at which I (and 99% of teens)
approached any relationship. No one taught me directly how to be a good friend.
This is why I decided to do a lesson on the characteristics of a good friend.
I started off this lesson by having my students list out the
characteristics they believe make up a good friend. I remember laughing to
myself at one point when a student asked, “Are these characteristics we hope
our friends have or characteristics we should have?” I was a little dumbfounded
and said, “Wouldn’t those characteristics be the same?” LIGHTBULB! After my
students brainstormed, we had a great discussion on the topic. Many of the
characteristics my students came up with were not the same ones that the Bible
Following this discussion, we jumped into several Bible
passages. After each passage we listed out the specific characteristics that
are identified within the verses. I always love hearing my student’s thoughts
on Bible verses. Sometimes their perspective puts a new light on an old verse
As usual the discussion was robust and forced me to eliminate
a portion of the lesson. I skipped a group poster activity and moved on to a
collage. We took all of the characteristics that we found in the Bible and
ordered them from the most important to the least important on a page. The
lesson plan includes the characteristics to cut out and a sheet to put them on.
My main hope for this lesson was to give my students a new
perspective on being a good friend. A lot of time we focus on characteristics
in another person that will give us something. However, this is not always what
we need as Christians. Often times it is much, much more.